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Bold truth: teaching is rewarding, but the end-of-year surge of tasks from parents can push even the most dedicated educators to the brink. That is the core issue this piece grapples with, and understanding it helps both teachers and families navigate a healthier collaboration.
Dear Abby: I’m a teacher who loves the profession and cares deeply about my students. After 26 years in the classroom, there’s a weight I need to share. Each year, many parents ask me to write a personal note in a specific children’s book, to be given as a graduation gift. While the gesture is endearing, it adds a substantial load of paperwork right when the school year is busiest—and I’m already juggling a mountain of tasks.
I want to be clear and public about this: please stop requesting extra duties at the end of the year. I genuinely cherish your children and have done my best to ensure their year was meaningful. I aimed to spark a love of learning, nurture a passion for reading, and guide them through social challenges so they emerge wiser. I share this not for praise, but to remind you that I have already given your child my utmost effort.
When considering another request, picture it multiplied by 25. That’s what it feels like during a peak, stressful time. If you value what I’ve contributed, show appreciation by refraining from adding more tasks at year’s end. Thank you for understanding.
— Overwhelmed in New York
Dear Overwhelmed: Your letter is worth sharing, and some readers may miss today’s column. A simple, proactive approach could help: send a preventive note to parents early in the year, explaining that this is a particularly stressful period for teachers and kindly asking them to refrain from additional end-of-year requests.
Dear Abby: I’ve spent 25 years with a partner, and the early years were wonderful. Then drugs changed the person I knew. I’m stuck, working two jobs to support us, while he doesn’t treat me with respect. I’ve asked him to leave several times, but he denies it. I’m considering leaving, but everything I own is here. What should I do?
— Ready to Leave in the East
Dear Ready to Leave: Seek legal counsel to understand your options. Continuing to support a drug-addicted partner can make you an enabler, so it’s wise to plan a safe separation. If there’s a risk to you or your property, report to the police and consider a restraining order. If you fear retaliation, a security system may provide additional protection. For additional support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or thehotline.org.
Dear Abby is authored by Abigail Van Buren, a pen name of Jeanne Phillips, continuing the legacy started by her mother, Pauline Phillips. To reach Dear Abby, visit www.DearAbby.com or send correspondence to P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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Jeanne Phillips (Abigail Van Buren) has been the voice of Dear Abby since 2000, offering practical advice with warmth and honesty that has earned a lasting following.
